Couples Who Slay Together – Solo and Gruff

Couples Who Slay Together – Solo and Gruff

Welcome to our Community Project of 2017 (you can see our last one in 2014 here)!

We propose to do a series of – fun and lightearted – interviews which help us learn a bit more about our awesome community, and hopefully unravel some juicy details about our readers. 

If you would like to get involved, contact us

Hello! Can you introduce yourselves?

Hello! Luke (Gruff) here. I’m the one that’s been nominated to write the response as I’m English so hopefully my written English will make a bit more sense (!)
We are Luke (Gruff) and Helene (Solo). Both of us are in our 30s, although I’m technically Solo’s toyboy by 6 months 😀 I’m originally from Birmingham, UK (hello from Shropshire!) and Solo from Bergen, Norway. We both now live together in Bergen with our awesome Dachshund, Apollo. Solo’s a dentist and I’m a stay at home dad to Apollo until I find a job and whilst I learn Norwegian. My background is in IT though.

Could you share a picture of you together?

You two are so cute! How long have you been together, and where did you meet?

In June 2017, we’ll have been together for 2 years. Those two years have flown by though, as most of it was spent flying back and forth between the UK and Norway.

We met playing WoW. I’d played since mid-late Vanilla, but stopped just after MOP launched due to raiding burn out, RL friends not playing anymore and my ex hating me play video games. Solo began playing WoW at the start of WotLK and got completely hooked. The addiction was still in full effect for MOP where she was raiding 4/5 times a week on two different characters.

Our paths met at the launch of WoD – I’d split with my ex, some RL friends had started playing again and the call of WoW came to me. I had no guild, but a RL friend mentioned he’d joined a friends guild and they were after people, so it seemed like a good place to go. This guild happened to be the home of a Hunter called Solovala.

We didn’t really talk to each other at first – just the usual “grats” or “hello” in guild chat. It wasn’t until later that I found out that Solo thought I had a nice voice when I spoke on Vent. Apparently it’s the first thing that drew her to me.

I can’t remember exactly how, but we got talking more in-game and this progressed to questing together and doing stupid stuff. The guild set up a WhatsApp group for us all to talk outside of the game and Solo and I used that to start talking to each other. The true sign that Solo was smitten with me though, was the fact that I (an Ele Shaman), became the misdirect target of choice during pre-pull tactics. The number of early wipes that got blamed on me thanks to Solo is too many to count.

After a couple of months. I ended up taking my first trip to Norway to visit Solo, what followed was another 18 months of long weekends, short holidays and rushed visits to see each other. I even ended up taking a flight from London to Barcelona to get a connecting flight to Norway as I missed the last direct flight that weekend.

As of march this year, I packed up my stuff (mainly my PC!), quit my job and moved to Norway. Thing have been great since 😀

Show us a pic of your set up – is it all cute and cosy?!

Not the super cozy setup, but we just moved in and have plans. Many plans 😉

Do you tend to play the same games together, or prefer to keep gaming life separate?
Solo tends to be a one or two games at a time type person. If she likes a game, she REALLY gets into it. Whereas I will have one or two main games whilst also trying various other things, I particularly like smaller indie games etc. We play some of the same games together – mainly Overwatch at the moment. I’m still playing WoW, but Solo took a break for a couple of months as she is well and truly hooked on OW, but claims she’ll be back for the next WoW expansion.

With the current political situation, it’s only right we ask your affiliation: HORDE OR ALLIANCE?

For Solo, it’s simple: FOR THE ALLIANCE!! YES /highfive 

For me, its more complicated. I like dwarves and I like orcs. I’m currently playing on Alliance, as friends all faction transferred at the end of Cataclysm, but deep down I’ll always be FOR THE HORDE. It just doesn’t feel right if your Shaman isn’t an orc!

Spill the beans: what’s the most fun activity you like to do together? GAMING ACTIVITY. Naughty!

Raiding together was always great – the guild we were in for WoD made a lot of good progress in Mythic BRF and HFC, and it was always fun trying to best each other in DPS meters and rankings for the different fights. It’s great having someone to share the excitement of a new boss kill or getting an awesome piece of loot. Right now though, we have the most fun playing Overwatch cooperative matches together, I play Tank (mainly Reinhardt) and Solo is a Mercy main. We play with a couple of friends we met through gaming and it’s always great after a long day to come home, hang out together and have a laugh whilst playing games.

Solo trying to woo Gruff on a quest.

As a couple, do you find sharing your gaming hobby helps your relationship?

Definitely – our relationship wouldn’t have existed if it weren’t for gaming. At the same time, it’s not the only thing about us either. Gaming as a hobby just ties things together nicely and enhances what we have.

Last December, we attended our first LAN together (Insomnia Gaming Festival in the U.K.) and that was so much fun. This sounds awesome! We met up with a group of about 10 other friends and just played games, hung out, drank and did a pub quiz together. It was great to be with someone who shared the same excitement and enjoyment of being at the event.

Not our main characters, but we levelled the others main class together (so Solo did a ele shammy and gruff did a BM hunter) which was a cute thing we did together in the early phase of our relationship. Here we had just dinged 100 💚

*ahem* who rides who on the two seater mount?

I stayed up all night farming the mats to make Solo the Vial of the Sands as a surprise gift, so I end up riding her most of the time. She has no sense of direction (both IRL and in game) so it often ends badly.

Who is the Raid leader in your relationship?

Both of us can be really indecisive. However, I’ll often end up being the one trying to take a lead in things only to have Solo shout at me and tell me off as it’s the wrong thing.

What’s been the biggest tiff whilst gaming together?

Our gaming disputes often come from the fact that I get very competitive about things and dwell on them, Solo is really chilled though and quickly forgets. This can lead to minor disagreements should we lose 2 or 3 Overwatch comp matches in a row.

One of you has to kill 100 Kobolds and one has to collect the 100 shiny things they drop… who does which task and why?

Solo’s answer: I’d do the killing as my DPS is so much higher than Gruff’s.

Gruff’s answer: Solo would do the killing as she has a slightly compulsive nature for stuff like this. She’d often spend a Sunday afternoon killing the same few mobs whilst watching a series on Netflix just so she got exalted with a faction. I’m often the one looting the corpses as I can’t stand to see an unlooted corpse just lying there on the ground – I have stupid compulsions as well.

Where do you see your future in gaming?

As long as there’s a game that holds our interest, we will both keep gaming for a long time, this will probably be easier for me, as I can always find something to play or try. Solo is a one or two game person: previously is was WoW, now Overwatch. If she gets bored of OW (not going to happen) and there’s nothing else that takes her fancy. It sure if she’d still game or if she’d be that bothered.

The gaming culture and the friends we’ve made through gaming will always be part of us though. I think it’s try of lots of people our age. We are a generation that grew up with C64, Atari, Nintendo and Sega so is always been there more or less.

The million pound question to finish off… you’re gaming a rare mount, neither of you has it and it drops. Who gets it!?

Solo. I love how there’s no need for explaination here 😂

Thanks so much for taking part guys! Find Solo on twitter here and Gruff here

Couples Who Slay Together – Marathal & Mymystic

Couples Who Slay Together – Marathal & Mymystic

Welcome to our Community Project of 2017 (you can see our last one in 2014 here)!

We propose to do a series of – fun and lightearted – interviews which help us learn a bit more about our awesome community, and hopefully unravel some juicy details about our readers. 

If you would like to get involved, contact us.

A big hello to you both! Introductions first?!

Hi! I’m Marathal and my wife (Mymystic) and I are original gamers from the Atari/Pong era. We have both played games for over 40 years and hope to be playing for another 40… so you kids can GIT OFF OUR LAWN.

I bought WoW for her for a Christmas gift in 2007, after we had seen the South Park “Make Love Not Warcraft” episode. We did not believe a video game could be like that! It sat on a desk for about a year, and on Jan 17th 2009, she installed it. When the first choice came up – choose about realm – we saw one listed as New Players… we figured that’s where you had to start abouts and you’d work your way through the realms as you got better.

She picked Brean Tundra, without knowing it had only been open a day, and perhaps because of this her experience was really good. There were some bad spots (her account being hacked and a creepy GM), but after joining a guild, becoming an officer it was good overall. I joined 8 months later and we eventually changed from Alliance to Horde. It truly has been A Long Strange Trip. 

 Could you share a pic of you together – either IRL or in game, we don’t mind! 

A photo of us. It’s the picture of us from our wedding 20 years ago, but one I really love.

How long have you been together and where did you meet?

We’ve been together since April 1995, over 22 years, as to how we met? Well we actually met on America Online (AOL). We talked quite a bit before we actually met for a drink, and the rest is history. 

Show us a picture of your setup – do you have a cute couple thing going on, all cosy?

We finished an area of the basement for a workout / computer room. The router is right behind the curtain and we are located about a mile from the closest major hub connection. This means we have super fast connection speed, which is a far cry from when we first started playing World of Warcraft in 2009.

So, do you tend to play the same games together or prefer to keep gaming life separate?

When it comes to WoW, we play together. I have played a lot of collectable card and miniature games, she has played a great deal of online games.

With the current political situation it’s only right we ask your affiliation: HORDE OR ALLIANCE?

For the past, oh about 4 years, we have fought for the Horde. When we started, or I should clarify, when my wife started playing,  she played for about 8 months before I gave it a go. We were both Alliance, because we had heard all the kids play Horde and the adults played Alliance. We switched after smell bad experiences Alliance side and joined all guild that I now run, with her as my co-GM.

Spill the beans: what’s the most fun activity you like to do together? GAMING ACTIVITY… naughty! 😉

We make a great team. When it comes to leveling at the start of any expansion, we make our way through fairly quickly. I’m adept at looking up quest info, she keeps my squishy butt alive. Once at cap, our interests vary: she enjoys levelling alts,  raiding and pet battling. I tend to just focus on just one character and wander around looking for hidden things.

As a couple, do you find sharing your gaming hobby helps your relationship?

It is something we enjoy doing together. So both work hard all week, take care of elderly parents and do our best to maintain our home.  Playing WoW is kind of escape, even when everyday tries its best to work its way into our virtual world. 

*ahem* who rides who on the two seater mount?

I do all the driving and flying about, except when there are herbs involved. Then I get yelled at because there are weeds I’m missing. 

Who is the raid leader in your relationship?! 

I don’t know that either of us are. We kind of just do things together. She keeps me from removing 90% of the guild roster though when pepole are misbehaving.

What’s been the biggest, how can I say this… marital dispute… whilst gaming together?

I would have to say my declining interest in organised raiding. When interest caught up to her initially, I was all in. Learned my class, worked really hard at it, but over the years, it has become more and more complex and with running a guild,  people tend to want to talk about things during a raid. It just became too stressful for me.

One of you has to kill 100 kobolds and one has to collect the 100 shiny beads they drop… who does which task and why?

When it came to farming mobs, my priest was well suited for the task – I had great AOE, and with the occasional heal from her, we always cleared quickly.  With recent changes, however, she tends to do as much or more than I do. So going forward, we are equal.

Where do you see your future in gaming?

This is a tough one since we are both from the Atari 2600 generation. Getting into Warcraft during Wrath was eye opening, and we never knew a game could be this big. The future is an unknown, I just gope it’s not fully eSports related.

Ok, the million pound question. You’re farming a rare mount. Neither of you has it. It drops. Who gets it?!!

She does, of course. I seem to get them from the oddest things when she is in raid or pet battling. 

Ooh I need to know more?!

Usually I get given all the pets she has already captured, or I hang around and kill stuff whilst she is busy 🙂

Marathal’s twitter is here and Blog is here. Thanks so much for talking with us today! 

Couples Who Slay Together – Quaide & Kal

Couples Who Slay Together – Quaide & Kal

Welcome to our Community Project of 2017 (you can see our last one in 2014 here)!

We propose to do a series of – fun and lightearted – interviews which help us learn a bit more about our awesome community, and hopefully unravel some juicy details about our readers. 

If you would like to get involved, contact us.

Can you introduce yourselves?   

We are Quaide and Kal or Kevin and Brenda, respectively.

Could you share a pic of you together – either IRL or in game, we don’t mind!

How long have you been together and where did you meet?

We started dating in 1999. We’ve been married 17.5 years. We have 3 children. We met in South Korea.

So, do you tend to play the same games together or prefer to keep gaming life separate?  

We pretty much play all the games together. We do most things together. We are “that couple”. N’awww!




With the current political situation it’s only right we ask your affiliation: HORDE OR ALLIANCE?  

FOR THE HORDE!!!

Spill the beans: what’s the most fun activity you like to do together? GAMING ACTIVITY… naughty! 😉   

RAID! Quaide is one of our main raid tanks. I, Kal,  just do DPS. Pff, no “just” about it… us DPS are as important! 😉




As a couple, do you find sharing your gaming hobby helps your relationship?  

Well, sharing a hobby is going to be a boon to any relationship whether it’s gaming or something else. I hear a lot of irritation goes on in relationships where just one member of the couple games. Gaming takes up a lot of time, I can certainly see where it could hurt a relationship.

*ahem* who rides who on the two seater mount?

99.99999% of the time, Quaide is the driver on the two seater mount. 
Who is the raid leader in your relationship?

Again, 99.99999% of the time it’s Quaide. I am perfectly happy to surf the Internet as he drives me from world quest to world quest. 100% agree – I love being chauffeured around! 


What’s been the biggest, how can I say this… marital dispute… whilst gaming together?  

Don’t get ahead of me (Kal) while we are farming stuff.  Oh, and if you get something new for your PC, I get the same upgrade…needed or not!  LOL

One of you has to kill 100 kobolds and one has to collect the 100 shiny beads they drop… who does which task and why? 

Quaide kills since he is a tank and won’t die while I run around and pick stuff up.

Where do you see your future in gaming? 

 Someday, someday we will be retired (hahahaha we will be working til we are 80 – dream on!) and might actually have time to play more than one toon.  We prefer playing a game to watching TV. 
Ok the million pound question. You’re farming a rare mount. Neither of you has it. It drops. Who gets it? 

LOL we will most likely roll for it and I will almost definitely lose. Stupid RNG! 

Thanks so much for chatting with us, guys. Check out Kal’s Twitter and Quaide’s here